{"id":9530,"date":"2022-12-05T08:00:29","date_gmt":"2022-12-05T14:00:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/iphc.org\/discipleship\/?p=9530"},"modified":"2022-12-08T14:03:41","modified_gmt":"2022-12-08T20:03:41","slug":"whats-for-dinner","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/iphc.org\/discipleship\/2022\/12\/05\/whats-for-dinner\/","title":{"rendered":"What&#8217;s for Dinner?"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"pl-9530\"  class=\"panel-layout\" ><div id=\"pg-9530-0\"  class=\"panel-grid panel-has-style ingpb-standard-row\" ><div data-full-row=\"yes\" class=\"panel-row-style panel-row-style-for-9530-0\" ><div id=\"pgc-9530-0-0\"  class=\"panel-grid-cell\" ><div id=\"panel-9530-0-0-0\" class=\"so-panel widget widget_sow-editor panel-first-child panel-last-child\" data-index=\"0\" ><div\n\t\t\t\n\t\t\tclass=\"so-widget-sow-editor so-widget-sow-editor-base\"\n\t\t\t\n\t\t>\n<div class=\"siteorigin-widget-tinymce textwidget\">\n\t<div class=\"page\" title=\"Page 1\">\n<div class=\"section\">\n<div class=\"layoutArea\">\n<div class=\"column\">\n<p>Is Fall as busy for your family as it is for ours? Do you find yourself crashing into the sofa every evening, almost out of breath from the daily hustle? From practice to ballgames to homework to housework and all the busy-ness that comes in-between our daily alarms, do you ever ask, \u201cHey, what\u2019s for supper?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I stumbled upon an <a href=\"https:\/\/apple.news\/AhDCERz5JS5eh8y9_fm0_Vw\">article from the WSJ<\/a> last week about the significance of having family meals together\u2026 that research suggests what we probably already know\u2014that regular meals around a table with our families benefit our children\u2019s physical and mental health. Check out this excerpt:<\/p>\n<p>\u201c<em>Those who had eaten two to three<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>family meals a week as teens had lower rates of obesity and eating disorders, as well as better mental-health outcomes than those who had eaten fewer meals together, she found. Those young adults<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>now give priority to dining with their own children and partners. Young adults who had eaten meals with their families three to five times a week as adolescents had even more-significant physical and mental-health benefits, Dr. Berge found.<\/em>\u00a0\u201d<a href=\"applewebdata:\/\/65B29790-08C3-43CC-91B4-7247F1DCAA5D#_ftn1\" name=\"_ftnref1\">[1]<\/a><\/p>\n<p>We\u2019ve already seen how depression, anxiety and sadness seem to dominate the news and fill our feeds. What if we could short-circuit some of that with something as simple as supper? What if we could consciously make decisions to be together around a meal\u2014whether breakfast, lunch or supper\u2014so that we could have the critical relational moments that happen when we eat together?<\/p>\n<p>What will you talk about? Well, here are a few hints on starting conversations:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Lead by example\u2014Rather than open with a question, share something about your day. Put it out there, start the ball rolling, and demonstrate what you\u2019re listening for\u2026 Share moments that reminded you of God\u2019s goodness, or the news that led you to breathe a silent prayer, or caused you to be really happy, or really sad. All of those details not only give your teens insight into your life, but they also help your teens see how you handle the day-to-day circumstances we all face.<\/li>\n<li>Ask open-ended questions\u2014Steer clear of questions that could be answered with a simple \u201cyes,\u201d \u201cno,\u201d grunt, shrug, or nod. You might ask questions like\n<ol>\n<li>Which friends did you talk to most today?<\/li>\n<li>What class did you feel most prepared for today?<\/li>\n<li>What are you most looking forward to tomorrow\/this week\/this weekend?<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<\/li>\n<li>Stay positive\u2014Even if they don\u2019t engage immediately with a full-disclosure of their social life to that moment, stay positive. As adults, we can tell when someone seems genuinely interested in our lives or when they\u2019re simply making conversation\u2014teens can, too. Demonstrating that we care about what happens in the mundane details of their lives can translate into more and deeper conversations down the road. If they\u2019re not willing to engage, then take a few bites and share a little more about your own day before you circle back to them. Listen for what they\u2019re not saying, and ask the Holy Spirit to help you speak life and truth in a way they will receive. He\u2019ll definitely give you the words when you need them!<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Want a few more hints?<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Set a no-phone-zone around the table\u2014and make sure your teens don\u2019t bring them either! Conversation can be hard enough without adding those distractions.<\/li>\n<li>No table? No worries! The bigger goal is to have meaningful conversations, so if it means hitting a drive-thru on the way to another appointment, still make sure to redeem that time and invest in your teens.<\/li>\n<li>Listen with the goal of hearing instead of responding. This is a great communicative practice for us with ALL of our relationships, not just our teens. Make sure to hear all they\u2019re saying before choosing your response; you might find the response changing as you listen more.<\/li>\n<li>Play the long game. Building open lines of communication takes time over time; don\u2019t allow the enemy to discourage you if the conversation doesn\u2019t last long or go deep enough. Remember they see and perceive our heart more than we might realize, and creating a good habit takes time.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Moses once instructed the Israelites to take every opportunity to tell their children about the goodness of God\u2014to \"teach\u00a0[<em>the commands and precepts of God<\/em>] to your children and speak of them as you sit in your house, as you walk along the road,\u00a0as you lie down, and as you get up.\u201d (Deut. 6:6) The principle behind his instructions was to create intentional opportunities to disciple our children as a family\u2014to take advantage of every available moment to rehearse the goodness of God to them. Even the social scientists acknowledge our children will be healthier and more emotionally resilient as a result of our time just eating together. Imagine what God can do with them when we allow Him to guide our conversations!<\/p>\n<p>The days can be long, but the years are short. Let\u2019s decide today to make our meal times about investing in our teens and showing them Who God is\u2014it\u2019s what\u2019s for dinner!<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"applewebdata:\/\/65B29790-08C3-43CC-91B4-7247F1DCAA5D#_ftnref1\" name=\"_ftn1\">[1]<\/a> Jargon, Julie and Andrea Petersen, \u201c<em>Family Dinners Are Key to Children\u2019s Health; So Why Don\u2019t We Eat Together More<\/em>,\u201d The Wall Street Journal, Oct. 8, 2022; accessed online at <a href=\"https:\/\/apple.news\/AhDCERz5JS5eh8y9_fm0_Vw\">https:\/\/apple.news\/AhDCERz5JS5eh8y9_fm0_Vw<\/a>.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><div id=\"pg-9530-1\"  class=\"panel-grid panel-has-style ingpb-standard-row\" ><div data-full-row=\"yes\" class=\"panel-row-style panel-row-style-for-9530-1\" ><div id=\"pgc-9530-1-0\"  class=\"panel-grid-cell\" ><div id=\"panel-9530-1-0-0\" class=\"so-panel widget widget_sow-editor panel-first-child panel-last-child\" data-index=\"1\" ><div class=\"panel-widget-style panel-widget-style-for-9530-1-0-0\" ><div\n\t\t\t\n\t\t\tclass=\"so-widget-sow-editor so-widget-sow-editor-base\"\n\t\t\t\n\t\t>\n<div class=\"siteorigin-widget-tinymce textwidget\">\n\t<hr \/>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><div id=\"pg-9530-2\"  class=\"panel-grid panel-has-style ingpb-standard-row\" ><div data-full-row=\"yes\" class=\"panel-row-style panel-row-style-for-9530-2\" ><div id=\"pgc-9530-2-0\"  class=\"panel-grid-cell\" ><div id=\"panel-9530-2-0-0\" class=\"so-panel widget widget_sow-image panel-first-child panel-last-child\" data-index=\"2\" ><div class=\"panel-widget-style panel-widget-style-for-9530-2-0-0\" ><div\n\t\t\t\n\t\t\tclass=\"so-widget-sow-image so-widget-sow-image-default-113ccd71f3e6-9530\"\n\t\t\t\n\t\t>\n<div class=\"sow-image-container\">\n\t\t<img \n\tsrc=\"https:\/\/iphc.org\/discipleship\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/4\/2022\/04\/Team-Web-Photos_stephen.png\" width=\"2084\" height=\"2084\" srcset=\"https:\/\/iphc.org\/discipleship\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/4\/2022\/04\/Team-Web-Photos_stephen.png 2084w, https:\/\/iphc.org\/discipleship\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/4\/2022\/04\/Team-Web-Photos_stephen-270x270.png 270w, https:\/\/iphc.org\/discipleship\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/4\/2022\/04\/Team-Web-Photos_stephen-1024x1024.png 1024w, https:\/\/iphc.org\/discipleship\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/4\/2022\/04\/Team-Web-Photos_stephen-150x150.png 150w, https:\/\/iphc.org\/discipleship\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/4\/2022\/04\/Team-Web-Photos_stephen-768x768.png 768w, https:\/\/iphc.org\/discipleship\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/4\/2022\/04\/Team-Web-Photos_stephen-1536x1536.png 1536w, https:\/\/iphc.org\/discipleship\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/4\/2022\/04\/Team-Web-Photos_stephen-2048x2048.png 2048w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 2084px) 100vw, 2084px\" title=\"Team Web Photos_stephen\" alt=\"\" \t\tclass=\"so-widget-image\"\/>\n\t<\/div>\n\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><div id=\"pgc-9530-2-1\"  class=\"panel-grid-cell\" ><div id=\"panel-9530-2-1-0\" class=\"so-panel widget widget_sow-editor panel-first-child panel-last-child\" data-index=\"3\" ><div\n\t\t\t\n\t\t\tclass=\"so-widget-sow-editor so-widget-sow-editor-base\"\n\t\t\t\n\t\t>\n<div class=\"siteorigin-widget-tinymce textwidget\">\n\t<p>Rev. Stephen Jones currently serves as the Pastor of Student Ministries at Whitnel Pentecostal Holiness Church in Lenoir, NC. In 2002, Stephen earned a Bachelor\u2019s of Arts degree in Christian Ministries from Emmanuel College in Franklin Springs, GA. In 2008, he completed a Master\u2019s of Divinity degree from Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary in Charlotte, NC. Since 2002, Stephen\u2019s full-time ministry to teenagers has spanned two IPHC Conferences, three IPHC churches, and numerous IPHC summer camps. Stephen currently occupies the Leadership and Skill Development Portfolio under the Student Ministries Advisory Team. His areas of expertise and responsibilities include:<\/p>\n<p>\u2013 Leading, teaching, structuring and programming for leadership and ministry-skill development.<br \/>\n\u2013 Advising the team about current developments, resources, and trends related to leadership and ministry-skill development, especially as they relate to youth leaders and youth ministry.<br \/>\n\u2013 Serving as a resource for other leaders, especially in the area of leadership and developing leaders.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"excerpt","protected":false},"author":33,"featured_media":9533,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_genesis_hide_title":false,"_genesis_hide_breadcrumbs":false,"_genesis_hide_singular_image":false,"_genesis_hide_footer_widgets":false,"_genesis_custom_body_class":"","_genesis_custom_post_class":"","_genesis_layout":"","episode_type":"","audio_file":"","cover_image":"","cover_image_id":"","duration":"","filesize":"","date_recorded":"","explicit":"","block":"","filesize_raw":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[4,1,305,3],"tags":[1458,1404,1514,1031,1262,1454,288,292,532],"class_list":{"0":"post-9530","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-discipleship-ministries","8":"category-general","9":"category-student-ministires","10":"category-youth-ministries","11":"tag-1458","12":"tag-article","13":"tag-disciple","14":"tag-discipleship-ministries","15":"tag-iphc-student-ministries","16":"tag-q4","17":"tag-stephen-jones","18":"tag-student-ministries","19":"tag-students","20":"entry"},"title_es":"","content_es":"","author_name":"Stephen Jones","jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/iphc.org\/discipleship\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/4\/2022\/12\/SM-2022-Q4-Article-Graphic.jpg","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p4T9u2-2tI","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/iphc.org\/discipleship\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9530","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/iphc.org\/discipleship\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/iphc.org\/discipleship\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/iphc.org\/discipleship\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/33"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/iphc.org\/discipleship\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=9530"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/iphc.org\/discipleship\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9530\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/iphc.org\/discipleship\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/9533"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/iphc.org\/discipleship\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=9530"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/iphc.org\/discipleship\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=9530"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/iphc.org\/discipleship\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=9530"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}